Honestly. I have struggled with this very thing in my life. Do I have purpose?
I grew up with a VERY poor self-image and self-esteem. It came through a lot of things. I was overweight. (I still am!) I was shy. I was embarrassed about some things that plagued my family. There was alcoholism and maniac depression. I was sexually molested by a family member. I HATE using that word … molested. Because it could have been MUCH worse and many have experienced so much more pain. But it was enough to scar me.
All of these things contributed to my personal lack of worth and purpose. The great thing was that Jesus rescued me at a young age and He began healing my heart. I’ve come a long way but I don’t think I’m totally healed even today. But that is okay. Jesus is still working on me.
He began by speaking healing to my heart in these words…
Cheri, you are mine. I made you. All the delicate, inner parts of your body. I put you together in your mother’s womb. I created you amazing and wonderful. My workmanship on you is marvelous. You can know that I did a wonderful job when I created you. You were never hidden from me even in the darkness of your mother’s womb. I was there putting you together. I saw you and I knew you before you were ever born. And I had a plan for you and a purpose for you. I even recorded your life in my book … every moment, before your were even born. I have been with you every day of your life … in the times of light and joy … and in the times of darkness and pain. I have been there. My love for you is GREAT. My thoughts toward you are precious. So many they cannot be numbered. And I will never give up on you … to see you become the woman of purpose I designed you to be. The woman in my book.
Even today that brings me healing and reminds me that He NEVER gives up on me … on seeing me become the woman He designed me to be. YES, I have purpose. Purpose in Him.
No matter who you are right at this moment … or what you have done … or what has happened to you. He loves you. And He created you as an amazing woman of purpose. His workmanship on you is marvelous! You are NOT a mistake. He wrote a book about you before you were ever born. You have PURPOSE! He created you that way!
Moms are busy, busy people! And taking care of ourselves many times …. most of the time, ends up on the bottom of the list. We absolutely can’t be the best moms if we are not caring for ourselves.
In this post I want to talk about taking the time to develop friendships. This is vital to your wellbeing! We can develop friendships with lots of women with whom we can have fun, go to coffee, go shopping, go to a movies, etc. And that is GREAT! We NEED those friends!
But don’t stop there. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that is the only kind of friend you need. See you also need 1-3 friends that are the kind of friends that stick through thick and thin. They are there when the budget overflows and when the budget drys up. They can hang in there when all hell is breaking lose and you don’t know what to do. They will stay with you in in the long droughts and then celebrate the rain. They get your passion and dreams … and are there to see you accomplish them. They won’t let you give up. They encourage you and admonish you and speak life into you when you feel hurt and defeated. You can trust them … completely. You can share your heart and know they still love you and they are still in your corner. They pray for you and with you. They cry with you and they celebrate with you. They tell you to get over yourself when you need it and you are okay with that. They tell you the truth even when the truth is not very pretty.
I must be honest and say that these kinds of friends don’t come along very often in a lifetime. So when you get one cherish her. I have one such friend in my life at this moment in time. She has been my friend for over 20 years. She has seen me at my worst and at my best. And she has told me the truth even when I didn’t want to hear it. She has come after me when I just wanted to crawl in a hole and hide. She prays fervently for me. She encourages me. She is my “iron that sharpens iron” friend. We kind of lost each other for a few years when I moved to Chicago. We emailed some and texted some. She got breast cancer and I got too busy. Thank God that He reconnected us since I have been back in Ohio these past few months. I love her. I need her. And I am so much better with her in my life.
“There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” …OR a sister… Proverbs 18:24
It takes time and vulnerability and investment to build this kind of friendship. They don’t just happen. But I need them … and YOU need them!
You NEED a friend that will stick closer than a sister!
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